What Happens When A Man Is Not Sexual Satisfied?
A man’s sexual satisfaction is very important for him. If he isn’t satisfied with his wife, it will affect his relationship with her and their life together. However, if he is unsatisfied with her, then it might cause problems in the future. Here are some things that happen when a man is not sexually satisfied:
He may become distant from his family or even leave them. He may lose interest in hobbies and interests. He may get depressed because he feels like he lacks something in his life. His job performance could suffer. His physical health could deteriorate due to lack of exercise and stress related illnesses such as heart disease, high blood pressure, diabetes etc..
He might have difficulty having children. He might feel guilty about his actions.
What Happens When A Woman Is Not Sexual Satisfied?
If she is not satisfied with her man, it will affect her relationship with him and their life together. However, if she is unsatisfied with him, then it might cause problems in the future. Here are some things that happen when a woman is not sexually satisfied:
She may become jealous of other women in the same situation as herself. She might start to compare her man to other men. She may lose interest in her hobbies and interests. She may become depressed because she feels like she lacks something in her life. Her relationship with her husband could suffer or even fall apart completely.
Her job performance could suffer. Her physical health could deteriorate due to lack of exercise and stress related illnesses such as heart disease, high blood pressure, diabetes etc.. She might have difficulty having children. She might feel guilty about her actions.
How Do You Know If Your Man Is Not Satisfied With You?
If you are not satisfied with your man then it might be difficult to tell if he is satisfied with you. There are some common signs that might show him not satisfied with you.
He looks at other women a lot and smiles a lot at them. He wants to spend more time with his friends rather than you. He doesn’t look at you in a sexual way. He doesn’t try to touch you very often. He is easily distracted during intimacy.
He starts to perform less well during intimacy.
How Do You Know If Your Wife Is Not Satisfied With You?
If you are not satisfied with your wife then it might be difficult to tell if she is satisfied with you. There are some common signs that might show her not satisfied with you.
She looks at other men a lot and smiles a lot at them. She wants to spend more time with her friends rather than you. She doesn’t look at you in a sexual way. She doesn’t try to touch you very often. She is easily distracted during intimacy.
She starts to perform less well during intimacy.
What are the other signs that your wife is not satisfied with you?
When she stops making eye contact with you. When she seems unhappy to be around you. When she no longer finds you attractive. When she stops touching you. When she starts to punish and reward you based on how you treat her. When she becomes more independent and self reliant. When she visits her parents a lot or even moves in with them. When she talks more about having children rather than your future plans together. When she looks, smiles and flirts at other men in front of you. When she stops supporting you in your goals and dreams.
What Are The Solutions?
First of all, you must be willing to change. No point in trying to solve a problem if you are not willing to change yourself.
Be more attentive towards her. This means paying more attention to her wants, needs and desires. Be more supportive towards her. This means supporting her dreams, goals and aspirations in life. Be more open towards her.
This means being open to try new things that she wants to experience together. Be more loving towards her. This means doing little things to show your affection for one another on a day to day basis. Be more protective towards her. This means being protective of her and defending her reputation when required.
If you do these things then it might help solve the problem of your wife falling out of love with you. Always remember that nobody is perfect and women especially are prone to fall out of love if they are not getting what they need. Take it upon yourself to be that strong pillar of support for her and make sure that she always has everything that she needs.
What if she says she wants to divorce you?
Well, in this day and age it is very easy for a woman to divorce you without you having any say in the matter. Even if you think there is still hope in saving your marriage, your wife might not feel the same way. She might already be mentally and emotionally divorced from you.
What can you do to prevent her from going through with the divorce?
You can beg and plead with her. You can offer her anything you think might convince her to stay. You can start being better towards her. You can impress how much you love and care about her and express how you have changed and will change in the future. Sometimes, these methods work to keep a woman from going through with the divorce.
However if you have done a lot of the things on the list above and you have been generally a good husband to her then there isn’t much else you can do to stop her from going through with it. You just have to hope that she wants to work it out with you.
You might be reading this thinking, “Why should I be the only one that changes? Why shouldn’t she have to as well?”
Well, you could propose this to her and see if she agrees to it. However, I think we can all guess what the result of that discussion will be. You are going to have to make some sacrifices in your own life if you want to save your marriage and unfortunately that is what needs to be done in this situation.
If you have been following the Red Pill philosophy then you will know that this is just the reality of things. Women are not designed to sacrifice and take care of a family the way that men are. The responsibility of caring for the family typically falls on the man and that’s just the way it is. This might seem very unfair if you happen to be a nice guy that cares about his wife and family, but it’s still just the way things are.
Remember, women are not designed to settle down with one man and raise a family. That is just not how they are wired. Even the most vanilla, faithful, loving wife is still going to get bored of you and your children after a while. At least with you, she knows she can get rid of you whenever she gets bored, but she can’t do that with her children. Sooner or later she is going to yearn to go out and do something fun again.
If you have been the one working hard at your job to provide for the family while she has been staying at home, you might think that you could use this as an argument to make her stay. However, this would be a very bad idea.
First of all, you are not supposed to publically shame your wife. This will just result in your friends siding with her and not you. Second of all, she really doesn’t have anything to lose here if she decides to leave.
She has been living a comfortable life staying at home and not working, why would she want to give that up?
You are the one who is going to suffer more by not having her around as much.
Who is going to be doing most of the housework and childcare?
It’s not like she is going to leave the children with a professional daycare service. It’s not like she is going to hire a cleaning lady and do all of the work herself, that is your responsibility!
However, if she has expressed displeasure with her current life then you might have a chance of convincing her to stay. In order to do that you are going to have to do some major rearranging in your own life so that she can be happier.
First of all, she wants more attention from you. This is pretty understandable given that you work all day and then come home to work more at home. You are probably so tired by the time you get home that you just want to relax in front of the TV and not talk much.
Whatever you do, don’t start responding to this by saying “Ok, honey, let’s go out to a movie tonight then.” or “I know! Let’s go out to dinner!” etc. Remember, you are not supposed to do the things that she can’t do.
The idea here is for her to get attention from YOU. It’s up to you to make an effort to give her more attention. So what you are going to have to do is resolve to spend some quality time with her each day.
For example, you could resolve to spend at least an hour with her each day. This can be broken up into two half hour sessions or three thirty minute sessions, however you want to do it. The important thing is that you are making an effort and actually spending time with her each day. This can be done by just talking to her, playing a board game with her, going for a walk together, or anything else along those lines.
During this time you should also talk with her about things that she might be interested in. Maybe she would like to hear about your work, or perhaps she wants to hear about the game you played last night, or maybe she wants to hear about how your parents are doing. It’s important though that you really listen to her and respond to what she says. Don’t just sit there silent unless she initiates conversation. Be engaged in what she has to say and respond to her.
You can also do things around the house together. Offer to help her do some of the chores that she normally does so that she doesn’t have to do them all by herself.
Also, try to remember special days like birthdays and anniversaries. If you know ahead of time, get her a little gift or take her out to dinner. Just something to show her that you are thinking about her. When these days come around it also helps to remind you to do something special for her. This can be as simple as a kiss or holding her hand, or more involved depending on what level of intimacy you share with each other.
The second thing that your wife wants is more help with the kids. She would like for you to be more actively involved in their lives on a daily basis. This means that you need to be more engaged when it comes to things like homework, school projects, and discipline. This also means that you need to take an interest in what they are doing during their free time. This doesn’t mean that you need to know every little detail about their lives.
This means that you should try to find out some of the details and show interest in what they are involved in.
For example, if your son has a football game this coming Saturday, it would be nice if you went to it. This doesn’t mean that you need to become the world’s greatest baseball fan and go to every single one of his games. Just go to a few of them and take an interest in his favorite sport.
Also, if your daughter is going through a phase where she listens to pop music constantly, then try to listen to some of it with her. It doesn’t make you a hip dad to know if she is listening to music you don’t like, so if it is something you don’t enjoy then just politely tell her that you don’t like that type of music and tell her why. What this does do is show her that you are willing to take an interest in some of the things she likes to do.
The third thing that your wife wants is more intimacy. Again, this isn’t just about the physical intimacy. It’s about the emotional intimacy as well. Your wife wants to feel connected to you on an emotional level as well as a physical level. When you engage in intimate relations with your wife, she wants to feel like you are making love to her and not just having a chore that needs completing.
She wants you to caress her body and kiss her in places other than the lips.
This doesn’t mean that you need to become some sexual deviant and need to put your mouth everywhere. It just means that you need to take the time to be more intimate with your wife on a regular basis. The best way to do this is to initiate intimacy on a regular basis. Take your time and caress different parts of her body. Kiss her when you first enter the bedroom.
Tell her that you find her physically attractive and you desire her when you are comfortably laying next to each other.
The fourth thing that your wife wants is your respect. This is one of the most important things in her mind. Your wife wants to know that you respect her decisions even if you don’t agree with them. If you have a disagreement with something she wants to do, she would like you to talk it out with her instead of just dismissing it. She would like to hear you openly admit when you are wrong even if you don’t think you are.
She would like to hear from you when something she does pleases you. She would like to know that you feel secure and respected in your marriage.
The fifth and final thing that your wife wants is your love. This might seem like an obvious thing, but your wife wants to feel like you love her. Now this isn’t the soppy drivel that you see often in movies or read in bad romance novels. This isn’t about saying “I love you” multiple times a day. This is about doing small things to show your love for her.
This is about spending time with her on a regular basis. This is about being physically affectionate with her. This is about verbally demonstrating your love for her. Most of all this is about DOING something to show your love for her. Just saying it isn’t enough. She needs to see you put in the effort to show that you love her.
The reason that your wife didn’t leave you is because she still loves you and believes that you can change. However, if you continue to insist on being emotionally withdrawn from her, she will have no choice but to divorce you. I want you to really think about this seriously. This is your marriage and possibly your family we are talking about here. If you continue to deny that there is a problem, then I can’t help you.
I’m going to give you a week to think this over and discuss it with your wife. I want you both here next week for a follow-up visit. If I sense that you are still in denial about the situation, then I am going to have to refer this to our attorney friend and have the two of you legally separated with custody of the children decided by the courts. This is your ONLY chance to fix your marriage and I hope you heed my warning. Good day.
You both sit in silence for a while after the doctor leaves. You have no idea how to react to what he said. You haven’t said anything mean to your wife since you got married and you can’t imagine that she would lie about the way you speak to her. Then again, you don’t remember doing most of the things she mentioned either. Your marriage has been falling apart for so long that you don’t remember when things started going wrong.
“
Are you going to say anything?”
your wife asks.
“I…I don’t know what to say…” you stutter, “I mean, I remember bits and pieces of what he said, but I thought we had a good marriage.
I don’t understand why I would speak to you like that. I don’t even swear that much in the first place. I don’t understand.”
“Well, no matter what the reasons are, he was right. You do need to change. I know you can be a kind person so this personality you’ve developed must be a result of the stress you’ve been under at work. I think the first thing you should do is talk to him about ways of changing this around.”
“I…suppose…”
“You don’t have to if you don’t want to. It’s your choice. But one thing is for sure, something needs to change.”
Your wife gets up from the chair and walks towards the door. Her hand is on the doorknob when she turns around to face you one last time.
“You’re right about one thing,” she says wiping a small patch of tears from her eyes, “we’ve spent too long not talking to each other. It’s been bad for both of us. Maybe if we had talked more things would have been different. I don’t know. But it’s too late now.
Goodbye…I love you. I’m sorry things had to end like this.”
“I…love you too,” you say choking back a tear of your own, “goodbye…I’m sorry too.”
With those last words, your wife opens the door and leaves your life forever. You slouch forward in your chair and bury your head in your hands sobbing.
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Why? Why did we let it get to this point? What the hell were we thinking? How could I have been so blind?
I should have seen the warning signs a long time ago, I just…I just didn’t want to lose her. I can’t believe this is happening…I’m losing my family…I just want to wake up from this nightmare…”
You weep uncontrollably for at least an hour. When you regain your composure, you head out the office and wander the streets of Nuro in a daze. You don’t know where you’re going; you don’t have any place to go. As you walk past various shops, you see people inside laughing and having a good time. You don’t understand how they can feel joy when you feel such utter sadness.
You must walk several miles before you realize you’re in a part of town you’ve never been in before.
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