What to Do If You or Your Penis-Having Partner Are Having Trouble Coming

What to do if you or your partner are having trouble coming?

If you have been experiencing difficulties with your sexual performance, it may be due to one of two reasons: 1) You need to work on yourself physically (and mentally), and 2) You are simply too tired from all the stress of life.

The first reason is very common among men who are trying out new things sexually. They are just starting out, they haven’t had any experience with anything like this before, so they aren’t used to getting turned on by their partners’ bodies. So when they start feeling good about themselves and enjoying the sensations of being intimate with someone else, there’s nothing but frustration.

The second reason is much less common, though it does happen sometimes. When you are stressed out, your body goes into fight or flight mode. Fight or Flight is a survival mechanism designed to keep you safe from danger. But when you’re stressed out, your body goes into a different state called Overtraining Syndrome (OS). OS means “Over Training.” And this means that your body becomes overtrained and starts doing more than its normal job.

Overtrained syndrome causes many problems. One of the biggest problems is a lack of endurance. Your body just can’t last as long when you’re stressed out. In fact, your whole body gets affected, not just your endurance. So that means your body doesn’t just lose endurance during intimacy, it may also make your brain foggy and unable to concentrate.

Your body becomes more fatigued, causing you to feel like taking naps. Also, your immune system becomes compromised, leaving you vulnerable to illness. So, it’s very important to learn how to reduce the stress in your life.

Now, if you’re not too tired from all the stress and your body feels good, then the only thing you need to worry about is learning ways to please your partner(s). And that’s what this guide is going to help you with. So if you want to start succeeding in the bedroom, then it’s time to take notes.


Part 1: What is Intercourse?

Part 2: Common Problems and Solutions

Part 3: How to Please your Partner(s)?

Part 4: Common Mistakes and Tips

Part 1: What is Intercourse?

For those who are a little too ashamed or embarrassed to talk about these matters, let’s start with the basics. First of all, people can engage in sexual activity through different methods. One of the most common ones is what you call “intercourse.” The word itself is self explanatory, it’s when a man and a woman engage in sexual activity by joining the genitals together. During this act, a man’s genitals (called a “penis”) is inserted and remains inside a woman’s body (called a “vulva”). There are different ways to position the man’s body and the woman’s body for this activity. This activity is one of the most common ways to have a baby, although not the only way.

For those who are already having sexual experiences, you probably know that how good the experience is for the woman plays a huge role on how good the experience is for the man. If you’re trying to please your partner, then knowing what they like is very important.

Part 2: Common Problems and Solutions

Let’s get right into it. As I mentioned before, there’s a lot that can go right or wrong during the act of intimacy. Let’s start with the positives first.

You’ll notice that throughout this guide, there are links to other guides. Reading through those may help you understand things better and give you more tips on different stuff you can do.

Now then, let’s start with some of the issues you may experience…

Part 3: How to Please your Partner(s)?

Now, this is the real reason why you’re here, right?

To learn how to please your partner. You may have some natural talent, but it really helps to be familiar with what your partner likes. So, let’s go over some of the things your partner might like.

It’s important to remember that different people like different things. Just because one person didn’t seem to enjoy something, doesn’t mean all people won’t. Everyone is different. What one person finds to be a pleasurable act, another might find it to be a huge turn-off. So, don’t just focus on one thing and try to apply it to everyone.

Communicate with your partner and figure out what they like.

Remember, you both should be having fun and enjoying this. Don’t just focus on your own pleasure, focus on your partner’s too. If you’re trying something that isn’t working for them, then stop doing it.

One more thing to keep in mind is that when engaging in sexual activity, everyone sweats a little (or a lot). Especially ladies, they tend to sweat a lot more than guys do when they’re engaging in these activities. This is normal and shouldn’t be cause for alarm. Just be sure to keep yourself (and your partner) cool if things are getting a little hot and heavy. A cool washcloth can help with this.

Now then, let’s start with some of the basics.


This is an important part of intimacy for most people. This is your time to get things started and get your partner in the mood. In fact, you could say that this is the most important part of intimacy because it sets the mood and tone for the rest of it. Many people find that foreplay is half of the fun.

Most guys tend to want to go right into it…or at least they think that’s what’s expected of them. And while getting right to the action is fine, it’s a lot more fun if you take it slow sometimes. Teasing your partner a bit can go a long way.

Here are some activities you can try…

Kissing: One of the most common forms of intimacy, and sometimes the most effective. When you kiss someone, it tends to put them in the mood for other things because it signals that you’re preparing them for more intimacy. Unfortunately, many people don’t really think about kissing and just rush right into it. The key to good kissing is to take it slow. Don’t just jam your tongue down their throat, move slowly towards the areas that are more intimate.

Start by kissing them slowly and softly on the lips. Then kiss them on the cheek, then the side of their face, and then the neck. Try to do it slowly and softly, and don’t forget the female procreation glands! Gently sucking on those can really turn on your partner.

Also, pay attention to what they like. If they’re enjoying the kissing on the neck, then keep doing it! If they start reacting in a way that indicates they don’t like something you’re doing, then stop doing that thing and try something else. Again, this is all about them, not you.

Touching: There are lots of different ways to touch your partner in a sensual way that can really turn them on. Start with the obvious places like their arms, legs, and stomach. Then, go a little lower to the thighs and hips. Go even lower to the groin, but don’t immediately go for the genitals. Instead, try caressing the area around it first through the underwear.

If they’re a virgin, you might want to skip this step.

From there, you can go two routes. You can either slowly slip your hand inside their underwear (if applicable) and gently touch their private parts or you can just grip their member through their underwear and start stroking or even masturbate them using the soft grip. Sometimes, this alone can lead to your partner achieving sexual gratification and it probably won’t take long. However, you should not (and I can’t stress this enough) just jerk your partner off until they come. This is a fun way to kill time if you’re in a long car ride or something similar where you aren’t able to have PIV (penis in vagaina) or at least heavy petting, but it’s not a good way to actually pleasure your partner.

This is also how you can tell when they’re nearly at the point of climax. If you’ve been stimulating their privates long enough, they’ll tell you if they’re able, or if you’ve been paying attention to their body, you’ll notice some obvious signs like they might start breathing heavier or squirming a bit. Of course, there are people who don’t exhibit these signs, so it never hurts to ask how your partner prefers to receive this stimulation.

Now, if you’ve been stimulating this area for a while but see no signs of your partner getting close to climax, then stop and try something else for a while. Returning to something that didn’t work right away just makes things awkward and just frustrates you (and probably them). So, switch it up a bit and try something else.

Intercourse: Now, for the grand finale, you have PIV (penis in vagaina) or the less common but still enjoyed by many PIV (penis in Anus). As you might imagine, these are going to be a bit more difficult to perform since you need to obtain consent from the woman and then find a way to get your genitals mutually compatible. As such, these sections will be divided into two parts each: getting the permission and then the act itself.

Getting permission: As I mentioned earlier, you should NEVER just start rutting like an animal at a girl’s nether regions. This is disrespectful and if she’s a virgin, can actually physically hurt her if you just force your way in. So, you need to get permission first.

The easiest way to do this is to use your hands first and then work your way up.

What do I mean by this?

Well, first you lightly caress the outside of her legs. Then, you can move to the inside. Next is to go under her skirt (or just over for those not wearing dresses or jeans). Then, you slowly work your way up from her ankles to her knees. From there, you can either caress the outside or inside of her thighs. From there, you decide whether or not you want to go over or under her underwear. If the former, then you might need to ask for permission to take off her underwear. If the latter, then you’ll be able to keep it on and go from there. Once you’re there, you can do anything else as mentioned in the previous section.

The other way to do this is to skip all that and just ask for permission straight away.