Things To Do When You Don’t Want to Do Anything:
1. Go out for a walk
2. Watch TV or play games on your computer
3. Read a book
4. Play video games
5. Have fun!
6. What’s your excuse?
You are not going to do any of these things because you have no motivation.
Why would you want to go out for a walk if there isn’t much to see and nothing interesting happens? You could watch TV or play games on your computer if you really wanted to, but why bother doing so when there is already enough entertainment available online?
And even then, the quality will probably suck.
Why should you read a book, when you could be watching something that is much more interesting?
Playing video games is also out of the question, since most of the time you don’t have anyone to play against. Reading a book is especially boring and pointless when no one is there to talk to about it.
Why do any of these things if you’re not getting anything out of it?
You might as well just stay inside and sleep the entire day away.
But if you’re tired already, then why not take a nap?
It’s not like you have anything better to do.
Why don’t you have any motivation?
Because there’s nothing worth doing! Dealing with boredom is way too much work when nothing is going on.
Why go outside and walk around the neighborhood, just to come back and do something equally as boring?
It doesn’t make any sense!
And it’s a shame too. You used to do a lot more before your mom got sick and passed away.
There was soccer practice three times a week, guitar lessons on Saturday mornings, and family game night every Tuesday. You remember how much fun you had back then, but that seems so long ago now.
Boredom has set in and it doesn’t look like it’s going anywhere anytime soon.
What’s there to do when you don’t want to do anything at all?
There’s no point in trying to make yourself do something you don’t feel like doing. Sitting around bored all day is better than sitting around bored and frustrated because you’re forcing yourself to do something.
But boredom is a tricky opponent. The less you do, the more it consumes your life.
Before long, it affects everything you do. It affects your behavior and the decisions you make. It makes you want to do nothing at all, all the time. Before you know it, you’ve created a vicious cycle that could potentially last for years.
But that doesn’t mean you have to let it take over your life. With a little effort and determination, it is possible break the cycle once and for all.
1. Get outside
Remember when mom would make you go outside and play? Remember how much you hated it at the time?
Well times have changed, and the “go outside and play” rule still applies. You don’t have to do it because your mom told you to though, you’re a big boy now and can make your own decisions.
And what better reason to go outside than to enjoy the nice weather?
Getting some fresh air and sunlight does a body (and mind) a lot of good. It’s invigorating. You’ll come back feeling more awake and alive than you did when you went out. And exercise is good for you too. All that additional energy you have from being outside will give you more pep in your step, so to speak.
You’ll have more pep in your step?
Get outside and run around for a little while.
2. Be active
Now that you’ve gotten some fresh air and sunlight, take advantage of this renewed energy you have by doing something physical. Whether it’s sports, dancing, or even cleaning your room, any type of activity will get your blood flowing and your mind working.
You don’t have to overdo it of course. Going overboard on anything isn’t good for you. But as long as you exercise a little bit every day, you should be fine.
Exercising regularly will help release endorphins which in turn helps improve your mood. It’s a win-win all around.
The more you exercise on a regular basis, the better you’ll feel. Why just today you ran down the street and did a few cartwheels. (Okay, so maybe you’re not quite that coordinated). But you’ve got the cartwheels out of your system and can settle down to some serious exercise!
3. Be positive
What you think about on a daily basis plays an important role in how you feel. So if you’re focusing on the negative, then that’s what you’re going to get a lot more of.
If you focus on the positive, then that’s what you’ll experience more of.
It’s really that simple. You can’t always control what happens to you, but you can always control how it effects you.
Why let a bad situation ruin your day when it passed and will most likely not happen again?
And if it does, you’ll deal with it then. But in the meantime, keep your mind focused on the good things in life.
You have so many things to be grateful for. Your health, your family, your friends, the roof over your head.
There are so many people out there that don’t have even half of what you have. Try to remember that the next time something unpleasant happens to you.
4. Be social
You are a social person. You like being around other people because it makes you feel included and gives you something to do.
And that’s perfectly fine. Being social is a wonderful thing and can make you feel a lot happier in general.
But sometimes, being too social can have the opposite effect on you. There comes a point where you’ve spent so much time with people that you need to spend some time by yourself.
It doesn’t matter if those people are family or friends because your needs still apply in both cases. You’re not a hermit, you just need to spend some time by yourself every once in awhile.
Having this balance will allow you to enjoy both your time with people and time by yourself. It’s also important to remember that you don’t owe it to anyone to explain why you need to be alone.
You don’t even need a reason, it’s your choice and that’s it.
5. Be healthy
You need to take care of your mind AND your body. This may mean eating right, getting enough sleep, and exercising.
It also means steering clear of things that will harm your body, such as too much junk food or not wearing sunscreen when you go outside.
Taking care of yourself doesn’t mean depriving yourself of the things you want. It just means making smarter choices most of the time.
You can still have that cookie or order that greasy pizza. You just need to make sure you’re taking care of yourself most of the time.
6. Be realistic
You’re going to have good days and you’re going to have bad days. That’s just a part of life.
However, it’s important to keep your good days in perspective. In other words, you can’t get too full of yourself and you can’t let the bad days defeat you.
Sometimes your accomplishments are going to be bigger than other times. That’s just the way it is.
You can’t afford to get a big head just because you aced that one test (even though you studied all night). Nor can you afford to panic if you don’t know the answer right away (even if everyone else seems to know it except you).
Your bad days are just as important as your good days. On the bad days, you learn to deal with adversity.
You take one thing at a time and try your best. If you fail, you fail, but at least you made an effort. If you succeed, then that’s great too. Either way, it’s important to take things in stride.
Having a balanced life doesn’t mean you won’t ever feel sad, disappointed, or upset. It just means you have a healthy way of dealing with those negative emotions and they don’t control you.
The more you practice these things, the easier it will be to live this way.
Be proud of who you are and keep these things in mind. You’ve got this.
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