The Science Behind Angry Sex and How to Make It Happen

Angry Sexuality: A Definition

The term “angry” refers to a state of emotional intensity or frustration. Anger is often associated with negative emotions such as fear, rage, sadness, grief and even joy.

However, it can also refer to positive feelings such as pride and satisfaction. Although there are many different types of anger (see the chart), all forms of anger have one thing in common – they’re intense reactions to perceived threats or harm caused by others.

In other words, anger is a response to perceived danger. When someone feels threatened, their body releases hormones that trigger physiological changes including increased heart rate and blood pressure.

These physical responses may be accompanied by mental states such as anxiety, depression and irritability. If these physical reactions aren’t countered quickly enough, they can lead to dangerous situations where the person’s life could be at risk.

For example, if your partner starts to become aggressive towards you, you might feel threatened and respond in kind. You might then experience some of the same physiological changes that occur during an attack from a predator.

While this situation isn’t necessarily dangerous, it certainly doesn’t feel good!

What Causes Anger?

As mentioned above, anger is a reaction to perceived threat. One way that our bodies react to threats is through hormonal changes like those described above. However other ways to respond to threats are through fight or flight response. This occurs when a person experiencing anger feels a strong urge to either stand their ground against the source of threat, or run away from it completely.

These two types of response are generally universal throughout the animal kingdom. If you were walking in the woods and came across a bear, your body would instinctively react to that danger in one of these two ways.

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