Types Of Attraction
There are three types of attraction: sexual, romantic and spiritual. Sexual attraction is the most common one among humans. Romantic attraction is not very common but it exists in some cases. Spiritual attraction is rarer than sexual or romantic attraction. There are no known cases where someone have been attracted to something other than their own gender (or both).
The term “sexual” refers to any kind of physical contact with another person. For example, kissing, touching, hugging or anything else that involves physical contact.
The term “attraction” refers to feelings of love and desire towards someone. These feelings may be strong or weak depending on the individual’s personality traits and life experiences. Some people feel nothing when they see a beautiful woman; others get extremely excited upon seeing a handsome man.
The term “love” refers to a feeling of attachment to another person. When two people experience love, they become attached to each other emotionally and physically. They develop feelings of affection for each other which leads them to form attachments with each other.
Romantic attraction is the opposite of sexual attraction. It describes a relationship in which there is no physical contact whatsoever. Most of the time, the two people involved in this relationship don’t even know each other.
In a romantic relationship, both partners are attracted to each other’s minds rather than their bodies. They find each other’s thoughts, ideas, beliefs and personalitities appealing and interesting. When two people have known each other for a long period of time, they are most likely to develop romantic attractions towards one another.
In the modern world, many people tend to confuse sexual attraction with romantic attraction. This is because most of the couples in our society don’t know each other on a deeper level. They are only together because of their sexual attractions towards one another. Hence there are high divorce rates and breakups in our society.
However, in a healthy relationship, the partners are both sexually and romantically attracted towards each other. They experience physical attraction as well as mental connection with one another.
In some rare cases, people develop an instant romantic attraction towards one another without knowing each other very well. Subconsciously, they pick up on certain things from one another’s character and personality. Sometimes, a person can be so uniquely different from anyone else that they seem to shine out from the rest of society. When this happens, an instant romantic attraction can develop. This attraction can later develop into a full-blown relationship, given time.
The opposite of a healthy relationship is a codependent relationship. In such relationships, the partners are only together because of their dysfunctional need for each other rather than genuine love.
In unhealthy relationships, one or both partners are very negative towards the other. Instead of being supportive and encouraging towards each other’s dreams, they try to tear them down. Rather than being loving and kind towards one another, they are mean, cruel and abusive. These negative traits tend to bring out the worst in each other.
Both partners have dysfunctional relationships with themselves as well. They don’t like who they are and try to hide their flaws with their partner. They are insecure, jealous and afraid of being abandoned. These traits lead them to seek control over their partner.
In extreme cases, one or both partners may become obsessed with each other. They are addicted to their partner to the point where they can’t live without them. This obsession may even develop into a mental disorder called “love addiction”.
In healthy relationships, both partners support each other’s dreams and ambitions. They believe in each other and tend to be positive about each other. They like who they are and they bring that out in each other. They seek to build up their partner rather than tear them down.
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