These feelings are called mental health issues.
If you’ve ever experienced one of these feelings, then you might already know how uncomfortable they can make your body feel. They can even cause you to worry about other things that could go wrong during sexual activity. For example, if you were worried about getting pregnant while having unprotected vaginal or anilingus (penis in mouth) sexual activity, then you would probably not want to have those kinds of experiences again!
Now, you might not have many worries about these kinds of situations happening to you. But, the next time you have a sexual experience, try to take note of how your mind changes its focus and concentration from what is happening around you. Instead of thinking about how great that pleasureful activity is (e.g., someone’s tongue touching your p*nis), you start to think about other things like:
“I shouldn’t be doing this!
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What’s happening to me?
I’m not gay!”
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Who knows what diseases this person has?”
Or other thoughts that have to do with something being dirty or wrong. If you start to experience these kinds of distracting thoughts, don’t worry about it. Just be sure to talk to someone about it so you don’t end up developing an anxiety disorder.
Dealing With Emotions When You Have To Poop During Analingus
Everyone knows that we all have to poop from time to time. And sometimes when you least expect it, you get hit with a poop urge. This can happen at any time; especially during anilingus (penis in butt).
Most people try to ignore the urge and hope it goes away. However, there are some things you can do if you can’t hold it in any longer.
If you’re receiving and don’t want to poop during anilingus, then you have a couple different options. First of all, you can try to hold it in. If you feel like you really need to go #2, then try to push out as little as possible when you release.
If you’re giving and don’t want your partner to poop during anilingus, then you can always try some techniques to prevent the pooping urge. One way is to eat lots of fiber a few days before engaging in anilingus. This will fill your partner’s bowels to the point where they won’t be able to poop.
However, if you still want your partner to poop during anilingus, then there isn’t anything you can really do about it. It might be best to have a toilet ready for them to go number 2 in after your activity is over.
Dealing With A Lack Of Privacy When You Want It Most
Sometimes when you’re engaging in sexual activity with a partner, you don’t want anyone to disturb you. Whether it’s privacy for yourself or someone else, this article will show you how to get some if you need it.
For Yourself
If you want to prevent people from knocking on your door during private time with your partner, then all you need is a little advance planning. You probably should tell everyone in your household that you’re going to be engaging in sexual activity with your partner. This way, they won’t disturb you.
If you are a minor (i.e., under 18), you might not want to do this because it could lead to questions you don’t want to answer!
It might also help if the people that live with you know when you’re available to be disturbed and when you’re not available. For example, if you’re a student and have tests during the week, then it would be best not to engage in sexual activity then because you need to be prepared for class.
If you live in a college dorm, you have a little more options for privacy. Many colleges have what are called “quiet hours.” This is when there are less people walking in the halls and when your RA might not bother you (if you live in a dorm with an RA).
This would be a good time to have sexual activity. Also, most college dorms are set up in such a way that your neighbors might not be able to hear what’s going on (even though they most likely still will).
As you can see, there are many ways to ensure privacy when engaging in sexual activity with a partner. All that’s left for you to do is decide what will work best for you.
If Someone Else Is Distracting You
Sometimes you’re trying to engage in sexual activity with a partner, but there is some sort of distraction occurring that is preventing you from doing what you want.
For Yourself
If you’re the one being distracted, there isn’t too much you can really do about it unless your partner is willing to help you fix the situation. If your partner isn’t willing to help you in a way that you’d like, then the best thing to do is to ignore the distraction and continue with what you’re doing.
If It’s A Child
If you’re trying to have sexual activity with a partner, but there’s a child present that won’t leave you alone, then you can try to ignore them or get them away from your general area. Most children don’t like to be ignored and they will most likely leave you alone if you do this.
If the child in question is your own, then you might want to find a babysitter quick, unless you’ve already made arrangements for your children not to disturb you when engaging in sexual activity with your partner. If this is the case, make sure that your children’s caregivers respect these boundaries or you might have to fire them.
If It’s A Pet
Dealing with a pet that won’t leave you alone will be a little harder than dealing with a child. You can’t just ignore a pet or it might attack you, especially if it’s a dog. The best thing to do is to get the pet out of the room or area that you’re trying to engage in sexual activity in.
For example, if you’re in the bedroom, close the door to the room. This is not an option if you’re having sexual activity in the middle of the room. In this case, try to distract the pet with something like a treat or toy.
If It’s An Inanimate Object
Sometimes what’s distracting you isn’t a living thing. Appliances make noise, phones ring, and parking attendants write you tickets. If you’re trying to have sexual activity and something like this occurs, you’ll have to either ignore it or get rid of it.
Ignoring the distraction is always an option, but it’s not a very good one. It all depends on what is being distracting and how much it’s disrupting you. If you can handle the situation, then go right ahead and ignore it.
Getting rid of the distraction is also an option, but again, it all depends on what is being distracting and how much it’s disrupting you. If you can’t handle the situation, then you’ll have to get rid of it one way or another.
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