Sexual Frustration Is Normal — Here’s How to Handle It:
If you’ve ever been frustrated with your current relationship or situation, then you may have experienced sexual frustration. You might not even realize it because you don’t experience any negative feelings towards yourself, but there are definitely times when you feel like something is missing from your life.
For example, you want to do something sexual, but you just aren’t sure if it would work out. Or maybe you’re having trouble reaching someone sexually and that makes things difficult. There are many reasons why one might experience sexual frustration, so let’s look at some of them:
You’re too shy to ask for help or make an effort to get physical intimacy.
Your partner doesn’t seem interested in doing anything more than making small talk with you.
The other person seems to be very much into their own stuff.
There’s no chemistry between you two.
You think you’re “too good” for them. (Not necessarily true.)
You could go on and on, but I’m sure you get the idea… Now, how do you handle these situations?
Well, here’s where my blog post comes in handy! Just keep reading and pay attention to these following tips:
Ask For Help Or Make An Effort To Get Physical Intimacy:
I get it, asking for help can be really difficult. But if you really want to get intimate with someone then you’re going to have to suck it up and ask for what you want.
Maybe you want to ask your friend if they’d like to go out on a date sometime. Maybe you want to ask your significant other if they’d like to have a threesome. Maybe you want to ask your partner if they can help you reach an intense sexual climax.
Remember: You can’t get what you want if you don’t ask for it.
Your Partner Seems Uninterested:
Are you dating someone who seems to be perpetually disinterested in hanging out with you? Do you have a buddy who’s always busy? Are you married to someone who is never in the mood?
Well, if that’s the case then it’s time to either make a change or learn how to deal with it. It would be great if everyone got along and was all about spending tons of time together, but that’s just not always the case. The key is to find out if the situation can be changed. A good way to go about doing that is by dropping hints about what you’d really like to do if you could. If you get a positive reaction, then it’s time to set up that movie date or plan that trip to the mountains.
If your partner or friend isn’t willing to budge, then you’re going to have to learn how to accept the situation. Don’t expect them to change.
Don’t nag them. Instead, focus on what you can do and reach out to others who might be able to fill the void.
No Chemistry:
There are people out there who we’re just not going to get along with no matter how hard we try. It’s just not going to happen.
Now, there are two ways you can handle this type of situation. You can either decide that it’s not worth your time and energy to pursue a relationship with this person, or you can decide to tough it out and stay together. It’s going to take a lot of compromise and understanding on both parts, but if you’re really serious about making this work then go for it.
The problem with getting into a relationship with someone who you know you’re not going to be sexually compatible is that it’s probably not going to last. Sure, you can hang on and stay together for as long as you can, but all you’re going to be doing is delaying the eventual split.
You Don’t Feel Attracted To Them:
What’s the point of getting to know someone if you don’t feel any kind of attraction?
The answer is there isn’t one. There’s no sense in developing a relationship with someone you’re not physically or mentally drawn to. If you can do something about the situation, then you should. If this person is just someone who you met and aren’t sure how to go about curtailing your interest, then it might be best to move on.
You Don’t Want Them That Way:
There are some people out there who just don’t want anyone. These people might be asexual, or they might just not be interested in pursuing a relationship at all.
If you’re in this situation, then you’re probably going to have to be the strong one and make the first move. Don’t wait around and expect them to do it. Instead, you need to talk to them about what you want and how you feel. It’s possible that your interest might spark something inside of them too.
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“I’m Not Thinking of It as Sexual Harassment” Understanding Harassment across Race and Citizenship by DL Hoff, SN Mitchell – Journal of Educational Administration, 2009 – emerald.com
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