Platonic Friendships Are Possible (and Important)

What Is A Platonic Friendship?

A platonic friend is someone who feels comfortable with you, likes you, and wants to spend time with you. They don’t feel like they need to impress or please anyone else. They are not looking for anything from you but just want your company and companionship. You can think of them as a surrogate parent type relationship. They aren’t going to do anything sexual with you, but they will give their undivided attention to you.

Platonic relationships are different than romantic relationships because it’s not based on emotions or feelings. It’s all about being together and having fun together. There isn’t any expectation of anything other than that. These types of friends usually don’t involve each others’ families at all.

Why Do People Have Platonic Friendships?

There are many reasons why people may choose to form platonic friendships. Some of these include:

It’s nice to get away from the pressures of dating and getting into a relationship. You don’t have to worry about the future or worrying about finding someone special. You can enjoy yourself without feeling pressured to do something you’re not comfortable doing.

You keep each other company and provide support when needed.

They can act as a surrogate family. You can share personal information with them that you wouldn’t feel comfortable sharing with others. They will listen to your problems without offering unsolicited advice.

It’s a great way to enjoy someone’s company without any pressure or potential drama.

What Are The Rules Of A Platonic Friendship?

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