What is Solo Play?
Solo play refers to sexual activity between two or more individuals without any other persons involved. There are many different types of solo play including: kissing, hugging, hand holding, caressing, touching each others bodies (including genitals), masturbation and even mutual masturbation.
The term “solo” is used here because these activities may involve no physical contact with another person. For example, if one person is rubbing their hands against the body of another person while they are having vaginal or penile penetration, then this would not be considered a form of solo play.
There are several reasons why someone might choose to engage in solo play. Some people enjoy the feeling of being alone, some want to explore new things sexually, some just like to feel close to someone else and so on.
Some people have had experiences where they were unable to perform sexual acts with their partners due to various reasons such as pain, fear or embarrassment. These situations are referred to as “dysfunctional” or “toxic” relationships. Some people in these situations turn to other means of sexual release such as masturbation.
One major thing that most people who are involved in solo play have in common is a lack of trust in others. Whether this is due to past experiences, religious views, or a combination of other factors, the fact remains; they cannot bring themselves to be intimate with someone else. This can lead to feelings of anxiety, sadness, and sometimes anger.
This is the kind of situation that most people find themselves in. As a general rule, it is best to try to communicate your feelings to others, as that is the only way that they can truly be resolved. However, there are times when this is simply not possible for one reason or another.
If you find yourself in a situation where talking to someone else about your feelings would not help then it would probably be a good idea to try something else. This is where sexual release through masturbation would come in handy.
Most people prefer to be sexually intimate with someone that they are emotionally close to. If you are not in a relationship then that option is not available to you. In this situation, it is best to turn to yourself and your own abilities.
Most people feel shameful or embarrassed about this but there is really no reason for this.
You are the only person on this planet that you will always be able to rely on. If you take the time to get to know yourself and learn what it is that makes you feel good, you will no longer feel any sort of emotional, physical or psychological tension.
While most people are familiar with masturbation in some form or another, they are not always aware of the wide variety of options that are available for self-gratification. In this article we will explore some of these options and how to put them to use.
Fantasy:
Often times people have a particular scenario or person that they enjoy fantasizing about while they are masturbating. It could be something general like an image of a beautiful woman they saw on television or something more specific like being dominated by an overly aggressive top. Whatever the case may be, it is important to remember that these fantasies can be used to enhance masturbation sessions.
While some people might prefer to think of nothing but the most attractive celebrities or models while masturbating, this can lead to an increase in feelings of dissatisfaction with one’s own body and a developing obsession with perfect female beauty. As well, constantly masturbating to the same vision can lead to a boredom with the act which can cause a reduction in intensity of ones orgasms. Instead, it is often better to create a fantasy in ones mind.
One can create a fantasy based on a real person such as a partner or celebrity. One can also put a personal spin on a Cuckold or Femdom situation. The important thing is to make it interesting enough for you to want to masturbate to it again and again.
It might seem silly or embarrassing at first but the best way to learn what fantasies work for you is to just try stuff. Think of your fantasies like an artist’s pallet. You have all of these different concepts and ideas that you can mix together to create a wide range of experiences for yourself.
A lot of times we are faced with limiting ourselves because something seems silly or embarrassing but as we grow and mature we need to fight against that feeling and instead just go for what really excites us. That is the only way that we are going to be able to tap into the most powerful and fulfilling sexual experiences.
Using lube:
Adding a personal lubricant to masturbation not only makes the experience much more pleasurable but can also reduce the incidence of skin irritation or rashes that sometimes occur from frequent hand masturbation.
There are many different types of personal lubricants available and some are better suited for use in masturbation than others. A couple of particularly good ones are Astroglide and K-Y jelly. These can be purchased at most drug stores or online and also make good complementary products to use with a partner during penetrative sexual activity.
Personal lubricants are essential to use with toys in masturbation. The most commonly available lubricant for male masturbation is oil based Vaseline. While relatively inexpensive and easy to find, Vaseline is a petroleum product and therefore not recommended for use during masturbation due to the fact that it can cause damage to the skin.
Instead, a personal lubricant should be used.
There are also many different types of toys available for use in male masturbation. The most common are strokers, sleeves, masturbators, and vibrators.
Most of these are very affordable and can be found in most adult stores or online. These toys are perfect for the beginner who may still find himself experimenting and not quite knowing what exactly turns him on the most.
These toys come in a wide range of shapes, sizes, colors, and textures. Some are designed to resemble vaginas, mouths, or anuses. There are realistic ones and those that are much more abstract.
A very popular type of toy, commonly referred to as a stroker or sleeve, is a tube like device that has a closed end and an open end. These toys are designed to be a “hands-free” masturbation experience and can greatly reduce the time it takes to achieve an ejaculation.
Another very popular type of toy is what is referred to as a masturbator. These toys completely encompass the user’s member, like a pair of pants but made of a more pleasurable material, such as cyberskin (which is a synthetic material that is very similar to the feel of human skin).
These toys are designed to provide a very similar experience to what a person might experience during penetrative sexual activity.
A lot of people are very apprehensive about using toys while masturbating because they believe it might imply that they have some sort of disability or impairment.
However, this is simply not the case. Almost all men at some point in their lives have used some type of toy while masturbating and you need not be ashamed or embarrassed if you do so.
These toys are specially designed to stimulate the user’s sexual organs. They come in all different shapes, sizes, colors, and designs. They can be used by people of any age or gender.
A butt plug is a specially designed toy that is inserted into the rectum in order to enhance sexual pleasure. These toys are specifically designed to remain inserted while not in a sexual setting. Most butt plugs have a flared base, which prevents the toy from being inserted too far into the body.
These toys should never be worn to prevent them from being lost inside the rectum. If they are, immediate medical help must be acquired. With proper usage, these toys can greatly enhance pleasure during a variety of sexual acts or during masturbation.
These are most commonly inserted into the rectum, though some are designed to be put into the urethra. Usually, these are shaped like a small cone or pen and can be made out of plastic or glass.
These are designed to be inserted and then forgotten about, as they do not provide any stimulation on their own. These can also be used for a variety of sexual acts or masturbation.
These tools are designed specifically for stimulation and to heighten the senses. Sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch are all essential elements in human sexuality.
The brain is the most important tool and one that everyone has access to. It is the most powerful sexual organ that we possess.
Condoms are a thin sheath that is worn on the penile and is designed to prevent pregnancy and disease. They can be made out of latex, or lambskin. Although they are commonly associated with preventing pregnancy; they also prevent the spread of disease through virus’ and bacteria’s that are present in bodily fluids such as blood and seminal fluid.
Most condoms have an expiration date, but if this has expired, it should no longer be used. If a male is using a lubricated type of latex, he should check the expiration date. It is very possible that liquid latex could go bad if not stored properly.
When first opening the package, the male should make sure that no tears or holes exist in the material. The female should not use this if their partner has any open sores on his genitals, which is a common way that HIV is transferred.
This is most effective when used in conjunction with a dam or female cap.
Sources & references used in this article:
“I did it myself”: The necessity of solo play for preschoolers by JC Katz, ES Buchholz – Early Child Development and Care, 1999 – Taylor & Francis
Infants’ visual sustained attention is higher during joint play than solo play: is this due to increased endogenous attention control or exogenous stimulus capture? by SV Wass, K Clackson, SD Georgieva… – Developmental …, 2018 – Wiley Online Library
Solo-Play Tennis Practice Apparatus and Method by JE Flis – US Patent App. 14/705,812, 2015 – Google Patents
