How to Recognize and Work Through Emotional Dependency

Emotional Dependency: What Is It?

Emotional dependence is a relationship where one person feels emotionally dependent on another. This type of relationship may occur between parents or siblings, friends, lovers, spouses or even strangers. There are many different types of emotional dependency relationships. Some examples include:

1) A parent loves their child unconditionally; they give everything to provide for them and will do anything to protect them from harm.

2) A sibling loves each other with all their heart and soul.

They would die for each other if it meant saving their own life.

3) Friends have strong bonds of friendship that go beyond just being good company or having fun together.

These friendships often last a lifetime and involve deep feelings of loyalty, trust, intimacy and caring for one another’s well-being.

4) Someone you’re dating is your best friend.

You feel so comfortable around her that you don’t want to leave her side. She helps out financially, takes care of all your needs and generally makes sure that you’re okay.

5) Your spouse/partner is your closest confidant and supports you 100% no matter what.

You’ve been married for years now and still look forward to spending time with him/her every day!

6) A stranger stands up for you when another person is threatening or bullying you.

Emotional dependency occurs when there is an imbalance of power between the giver and receiver of love. When one person gives too much and receives too little in return, s/he begins to feel unhappy and resentful towards their loved one for not giving as much as they receive. In a loving relationship, both people should be independent and caring towards each other.

They should be supportive and respectful of each other’s needs, without feeling like they have to always put their partner first.

What Are The Causes Of Emotional Dependency?

There are many causes of emotional dependency. Some of the main causes include:

1) One person cares too much while the other doesn’t care at all.

2) One person has more power in the relationship (e.

g. boss vs employee) and is taking advantage of their position of power.

3) One person gives excessively to another who takes without regard for the feelings or needs of the giver.

4) When one person has low self-esteem and attempts to bolster their own worth by giving excessively to another person.

Sources & references used in this article:

Female and male emotional dependency and its implications for the therapist-client relationship. by LA Gilbert – Professional Psychology: Research and Practice, 1987 – psycnet.apa.org

Choice theory and emotional dependency by J Hoogstad – International Journal of Reality Therapy, 2008 – search.proquest.com

How to recognize the signs of sexual addiction: Asking the right questions may uncover serious problems by JP Schneider – Postgraduate Medicine, 1991 – Taylor & Francis