How to Practice Yoni Massage Therapy: 13 Tips for Solo and Partner Play
What is it?
Yoni massage therapy (also known as “yoni” or “vagina”) refers to the act of massaging the female genitals with one’s hands. It involves rubbing and stroking the clitoris, labia minora, inner lips of vulva, perineum, and other erogenous zones on the body. There are many different types of yoni massage, but they all involve touching the area between the legs.
The term “massage” is used here because there are several forms of this type of therapy, such as hand cupping, finger pressure, tongue stimulation, and more. Some therapists use only their fingers while others may also touch their face or hands.
Why do I need to learn how to practice this?
There are several reasons why you might want to learn how to practice this. First, it helps reduce stress and anxiety associated with sexual activity. Second, it can help relieve pain from various conditions like menstrual cramps, backaches, or even headaches. Thirdly, it can increase pleasure during foreplay and penetration. Finally, it can improve intimacy in relationships by providing a safe way for partners to explore each other sexually without fear of injury or unwanted pregnancy.
How do I get started?
The first thing you want to do is choose a location. Ideally, you will want a comfortable place where you can lie down and where your partner can have easy access to your genitals. That being said, it’s okay to practice in different locations. You may find that lying on top of a bed or on blankets on the floor works just as well.
When you’re ready, find a position that’s comfortable for you. You can lie down on your back with your legs spread or you can lie on your stomach.
Both positions are fine, it really depends on which is more comfortable for you.
It’s important to remain as relaxed as possible during this massage. If you’re tense then your partner will be too conscious of this and it may cause them to tense up as well.
Try to breathe from your stomach and not your chest and don’t hold your breath.
How do I practice?
The steps below are designed for one person to practice on their own. If you’re practicing with a partner then both of you should read the steps and follow them together.
Step 1: Find comfort position
You will want to find a position that is comfortable for you. Lie down on your back or on your stomach.
This is also a good time to start relaxing. Clear your mind of all thoughts and focus on your breathing.
Step 2: Start with hand cupping
Once you’re comfortable, start by cupping your hand over your vulva. Using the ball of your hand, gently apply pressure to the mons and the pubic bone.
Don’t forget to also incorporate other areas, such as the inner thighs.
Step 3: Add more pressure
Slowly start increasing the amount of pressure that you’re using. Continue to focus on your breathing and do not feel rushed.
If at any point you feel uncomfortable then you can stop and continue another time.
Step 4: Vary your movements
As you get more comfortable, start experimenting with different types of movements. For example, try rubbing small circles in different directions.
You can also move your hand back and forth in a wave-like motion.
Step 5: Vary the direction of your pressure
Try using more direct and less direct pressure. For example, rubbing in a circular motion over the clitoral hood may feel good, but direct stimulation may feel better.
Step 6: Use the other hand
Once you’re comfortable using one hand, try adding in the other. You can start by cupping your hand over the pubic mound.
Be careful not to touch the mons. Then glide your hand up the inner thigh and over the vulva.
Step 7: Combine everything
Try combining all of these techniques into one movement. For example, you can start by cupping your hand over the mons and pubic bone.
Then use the heel of your palm to rub in circles at the base of the clitoral hood.
You can also try using only one finger to gently trace around the clitoral hood or even directly on top of the clitoris itself. Be sure to start off with just one finger and increase the amount of pressure slowly.
Using only your pinky can feel very different than using your entire hand. You may even want to run your whole palm over the area without applying any direct pressure.
The goal is for you to explore all of the sensations that you can feel by stimulating this one area. That way when you’re with a partner you’ll be able to tell them exactly what feels good to you.
Step 8: Try new positions
Experiment with new positions. For example, you can try curling up on your side or even sitting up.
If you’re having a really difficult time reaching your clitoris, then you can try standing up and leaning forward.
Just experiment with different positions to see what feels good to you.
Step 9: Talk to your partner
The most important thing is to communicate with your partner. Tell them what feels good to you and what doesn’t.
Also let them know if you want more or less pressure. Keep in mind that every person is different, so just because something felt good yesterday doesn’t mean it will feel good today. It’s important to keep communicating with your partner and be receptive to their desires as well.
Before the sexual activity take a shower or bath, this will help relax your muscles.
Begin by slowly touching yourself or letting your partner touch you. This can also done with clothing on or off, depending on your preference.
Continue to stimulate yourself until you feel close to climax. You can try different types of stimulation until you find what works best for you.
Once you feel like you are close to climax stop touching yourself and have your partner hold their hand there without moving it.
Slowly add stimulation back into your body until you feel that you are close to climax again. Continue to vary the amount of pressure or speed of stimulation.
Continue to increase and decrease the intensity of the stimulation until you achieve an Orgasm.
Most women need a mixture of mental arousal and physical stimulation to achieve an Orgasm.
Once you have achieved an Orgasm your body will be flooded with natural feel-good hormones called endorphins.
These hormones are also responsible for causing a lot of post-Orgasm symptoms, such as the sudden loss of stimulation causing pain or the urge to pee.
It can take up to twenty minutes after an Orgasm for these hormones to wear off completely.
Your body will also be sensitive after having an Orgasm.
This is due to the increased blood flow to your genitals and may cause pain if you touch or bump the area.
Afterwards, you may experience a temporary loss of strength in your legs.
Step 1: How do you like to be stimulated?
Before we start with the actual act of masterbation it’s important that we talk about what gets you in the mood.
Everyone is different and has different things that turn them on.
Some people like to listen to very specific genres of music, while others may like to watch a specific type of media.
Others still may just need a certain mood in order to get themselves in the right frame of mind.
It’s important to experiment with different types of media and even different types of stimulation to see what gets you in the mood.
Step 2: Stimulate yourself
Once you’re in the mood it’s time to get started. You may want to start by lightly caressing or stroking your body in order to get yourself warmed up and in the mood.
From there you can go a couple of different routes. You can either stimulate yourself through your clothing initially or you can dive right in and get naked.
The choice is yours.
Either way, you can use your hands or you can also use toys.
Using your hands is probably the least complicated option and therefore probably the best way to start out.
Using toys is going to require a bit of additional preparation, but there’s definitely a wide range of options.
While there are many different types of toys that you an buy or make, for right now we’re going to focus on the most common types.
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