Emotional support is one of the most important aspects of being human. Without it, life would not be worth living. Unfortunately, sometimes we are unable to provide emotional support when needed or even feel uncomfortable doing so. While there are many ways to cope with these situations, some people choose to use other methods such as manipulation and abuse. These tactics may seem like they are working, but ultimately they do not work because you have already made up your mind that what the person is saying isn’t true. You will continue to believe their lies no matter how much evidence you see against them. If someone tries to convince you otherwise, then you must decide if it’s really worth listening to them or not.
If they try to tell you that they love and care about you, then listen without question. They probably mean well. If they don’t, then ignore them.
If they say that you’re going to hell in a hand basket, then don’t believe them. If they insist on telling you that you’ll die soon, then stop listening to them immediately and move away from where they are speaking to you. Don’t engage in conversation with them either since it only makes things worse for both of you.
If they say that you’ll never achieve your dreams, then ignore them. Even if you don’t listen to them, they will still try to bring you down. If someone tries to tell you, that you’re not good enough or that you don’t have what it takes to succeed in life then they are definitely not your friends and need to go find some other sucker to take advantage of.
If they say that your loved ones don’t really care about you, then it may or may not be true. This tactic is tricky because most of the time it isn’t true, but sometimes it is. If you think that they might have a point and your loved ones might not really care about you, then give them what they want just this once.
You can decide for yourself if they were right later on.
If they tell you that something that you’ve been wanting for a long time is bad, then don’t listen. Even if they try to make it sound like it’s true and you’ve already decided that it isn’t, your mind can play tricks on you and make you believe something that isn’t true just because you want it to be.
These are all the different ways that someone might try to convince you of something that isn’t true. If you know the truth, then you can see through their lies. If they are right, then at least you know what you’re dealing with and can move on with your life.
But if they’re wrong and you pay attention to everything that they say, then you just end up making a fool of yourself in front of everyone else. So be smart, and listen to yourself.
When you come to a fork in the road, and you don’t know which road to take, then try going down each one for a while to see how it feels. When you find one that feels right for you, then go ahead and explore where it leads. But if you come across a road that feels really wrong for you, then you might want to turn around and take a different road instead.
No matter what you do, never stop believing in yourself.
I’m happy to say that I have been able to help many people over the years and that my writing has brought a lot of joy into this world. I have also been given many awards for my work including the Pulitzer Prize and Indie Award. I don’t always know everything and I am not perfect, but keep in mind that I will always be here for you every step of the way.
Please and always know that no matter what happens in the future, you’ll be able to handle it. You’re a strong and independent person who can succeed at anything you put your mind to.
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