How do I cope with someone being a pathological liar?
The most common problem is when one lies repeatedly without any reason or if they lie just because it’s fun. They may even believe their lies. These types of people have no remorse for what they’ve done. A person who does not feel guilty about lying is called a sociopath. There are other types of liars, but these two are the most common ones.
A pathological liar will tell many different stories at the same time and make them all sound plausible. For example, one day you went out to eat and then later you came back home late from work because your car broke down so you had to walk there. You didn’t want to go to the police station because you were afraid of what would happen.
When asked why you lied, you said “I was tired.”
If someone tells such a story over and over again, it sounds like they’re telling the truth. However, when confronted with evidence that contradicts their story, they’ll deny everything. They might say something along the lines of: “It wasn’t me!
How do you deal with such a person?
You really need to look at all their stories and decide which ones are true. Confront them with the facts, but remember that they won’t admit to lying even if it’s obvious. It’s best to just drop the subject.
It’s also hard to deal with a compulsive liar because they lie on a daily basis even if there is no reason to. You might ask a person why they lied and they can give reasons such as they wanted to make something sound more exciting or headline-worthy. They may even believe their own lies.
So how do you deal with such a person?
You could tell them that lying is bad and hope that they’ll correct their ways. You could also just accept the fact that they’re a liar and try not to get too worked up about what they say.
If you decide to confront someone about their lying, make sure you have the facts straight and don’t act too angry. Try to remain calm and also remember that they are who they are. They’ll probably continue to lie even if you scold them.
Does a compulsive liar need to go to therapy?
If you’re wondering whether or not a compulsive liar should go to therapy, the answer is, “maybe.” A psychiatrist (a medical doctor that specializes in treating the mind) or a psychologist (a mental health professional that studied for at least 5 years after college) can help a compulsive liar if they think there is an underlying cause.
There are several types of things that can cause compulsive lying, such as bipolar disorder or schizophrenia. In these cases, treatment (whether it’s medication or therapy) can help the compulsive liar live a more fulfilling life.
Most of the time, though, compulsive liars just lie because they get a thrill from doing it. They may even believe their own lies and have no idea that what they’re doing is wrong. In these cases, therapy won’t help.
The only solution is to either accept the compulsive liar for who they are or get away from them.
How do I stop lying?
The best way to stop lying is to not start in the first place. Making a conscious effort not to do it is the best way. If you slip up and tell a lie, just try your best to not repeat the mistake.
If you feel a need to lie, you may want to talk to a trusted friend about what’s going on in your life. If you have something important going on in your life (such as moving to a new house or getting married), then make sure you’re getting it all out in the open. Don’t keep secrets from your loved ones.
You could also talk to a psychiatrist or psychologist about what’s going on in your life. They may be able to help you sort things out (and maybe even fix the problem) so that you can stop lying altogether.
Children and lying
Children are prone to lying for several reasons. As we mentioned above, some may lie due to having low self-esteem. Others may attempt to lie in order to gain attention.
In either case, your approach to handling the situation should be different.
If a child has low self-esteem, they may not believe that you love them as much as you actually do. They may feel insecure and think you love their sibling more or a teacher loves their classmate more. It’s best to show your child that you love them unconditionally and that no one loves them more or less than anyone else.
If a child is lying to gain attention, it’s best to ignore the situation. Don’t give in and give the attention they want or they’ll just continue to do it. Instead, give them a great big hug and tell them how much you love them.
Children lie for several reasons. The reasons are different for each child and the approach you should take are different as well. The most important thing is to address the problem early on and show your child that you love them no matter what.
What to do if someone close to you is a compulsive liar
It can be frustrating and even infuriating when you discover that someone close to you is a compulsive liar. Your first instinct may be to confront them about it, but that may not be the best idea.
If you confront a liar, they may become defensive. This may cause them to lie more and in more detail (to cover their lies) or they may completely shut down and stop talking to you altogether.
Instead of confronting the liar, it’s best to keep a written record of all the lies you discover. Instead of arguing with them about it, show them the list of lies (but don’t get into an argument). You’ll probably get a defensive reaction, but once they’ve had time to calm down, meet with them again.
Your goal at this meeting is to try to come to an agreement on some ground rules.
For example, you could agree that the lying has to stop. They also have to agree to submit to regular polygraph tests (you can administer these yourself). Agree on a punishment if they fail the test.
Some options include: loss of phone, loss of TV, loss of friends, mandatory volunteer work at a homeless shelter, etc. Agreeing on the punishment ahead of time will ensure that you’re both going into this with the same expectations.
Finally, don’t forget to praise them when they pass their polygraph test. Let them know how proud you are of how they’ve changed their ways and how proud you are to know them.
Sources & references used in this article:
Why don’t we catch liars? by P Ekman – Social research, 1996 – JSTOR
Lie catching and microexpressions by VE Johnson – 2009 – Simon and Schuster
The impact of pathological gambling on the spouse of the gambler by CH Sommers, S Satel – 2006 – Macmillan
Bully in sight: How to predict, resist, challenge and combat workplace bullying: Overcoming the silence and denial by which abuse thrives by MM Lombardo, MW McCall – 1984 – Center for Creative Leadership
Testing the grief to personal growth model using structural equation modeling by P Ekman – The philosophy of deception, 2009 – books.google.com