Spontaneous Orgasms: What are they?
The word “orgasm” comes from the Greek words orgy and gaseos which means sexual pleasure. This term was first used in the late 1800’s when doctors were trying to understand female masturbation. They noticed that women would often have an intense sensation during their periods called a “coregasm.” During this time, many believed that these orgasms were caused by some sort of chemical imbalance in the brain. However, this theory didn’t hold up and it was discovered that the coregasm was actually due to increased blood flow to the clitoris.
In fact, there are two types of spontaneous orgasms:
1) Arousal orgasms – These occur spontaneously without any stimulation at all.
For example, a woman might get excited just hearing her husband having an affair or even seeing him with another woman. She may then experience an arousal orgasm without any physical contact whatsoever!
2) Coregasm – These occur when a woman experiences a strong emotional reaction to something she sees or hears.
For example, if she heard about someone getting divorced and experiencing an intense emotion such as sadness, she will likely experience a coregasm.
How do I know if my wife/girlfriend is having one of these orgasms?
These orgasms can be difficult to detect since they occur without any physical stimulation. However, if you know your partner well, then you will learn what their arousal signs are and be able to tell the difference.
For example, if your wife usually gets flushed or blushes when she is aroused, then you will notice this even if she is not in the same room. You may even see her bosom heaving if she is in the next room!
If the air is particularly heavy with sexual energy, then it is possible that she may have an arousal or even a full-blown coregasm.
The best thing to do is to keep your eyes and ears open and learn how your partner’s body reacts to different situations. It can be very useful during foreplay!
How common are spontaneous orgasms?
Arousal and coregasms are somewhat common in women. In fact, some women experience them so frequently that they may not even realize when they happen.
This is especially true if there is a high level of romance or sexual tension in the air. For example, if a group of couples were out to dinner and one of the men made a few flirtatious comments to the waitress, then all of the women at that table may end up having an arousal or even a coregasm.
These types of orgasms are more common in younger women who may not be as experienced in controlling their sexual energies. In fact, some young women may have several of these orgasms in just one day!
However, as women get older they will learn how to better control their sexual energies. By the time they reach their forties, they will not experience these types of spontaneous orgasms anymore.
In fact, some women never experience them at all and that is completely normal as well. There is no need to feel embarrassed or self-conscious if you are a woman in her forties and you have never had one of these types of orgasms.
Just enjoy them when they happen since they can be a lot of fun!
What about men? Can men have spontaneous orgasms?
Men can also experience arousal and coregasms as well. However, it is not as common for men to experience these types of orgasms since they tend to focus their sexual energy in other directions.
For example, a man may experience an arousal or coregasm while watching an extremely steamy scene in a movie or television show. However, it is not very common for a man to experience these at moments where there is no direct physical stimulation.
Instead, men tend to focus their sexual energy inward and turn it into spiritual energy. While women focus their sexual energy outward and into the world around them.
However, this does not mean that men cannot learn how to have these types of orgasms or that they are “lesser” than women in any way. All it means is that men and women experience and relate to the world differently.
Should I let my friends know if I experience one of these orgasms?
That is entirely up to you. If you think your friends will be supportive and understanding then by all means tell them. However, you should not be surprised if their reaction is negative.
For example, some people may be very embarrassed by this and considering the type of society that we live in today; it may cause unnecessary gossip.
Others may even try to make a huge deal out of this and treat it like some amazing new discovery. This is especially true for men who have never heard about something like this before. It may even give them ideas that they otherwise would not have considered before.
In any case, if you do tell someone then just be prepared for whatever the consequences may be.
Should I tell a partner that I experience spontaneous orgasms?
Just like telling friends, this is entirely up to you. If you are concerned about whether or not your partner will be accepting of this than it might be best not to say anything at all.
If you decide to tell them then make sure you explain what is going on in explicit detail.
For example, your partner may have heard of something similar to this before through various media sources. In that case, they may have some idea of what is going on and just need some reassurance.
It also may help to let them know that you experience these types of orgasms much more frequently when YOU are in control. This can be a great way for a couple to switch things up and allow a man to please his partner more often.
Sources & references used in this article:
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The Orgasms of History: 3000 Years of Spontaneous Insurrection by Y Fr – 2002 – books.google.com
Anxiety and orgasm by SS Feldman – The Psychoanalytic Quarterly, 1951 – Taylor & Francis
Restless genital syndrome (ReGS) should be distinguished from spontaneous orgasms: a case report of cannabis-induced spontaneous orgasm by MD Waldinger, DH Schweitzer – Journal of sex & marital therapy, 2018 – Taylor & Francis
Persistent genital arousal disorder: What it is and what it isn’t by S Leiblum – Contemp Sex, 2006 – pdfs.semanticscholar.org
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