The Baby Sleep Question:
A parent asks the question “Do my baby sleeps more while I’m feeding?” or “Does my baby cry less after breastfeeding?”
. There are many reasons why parents ask such questions. Sometimes it’s because they’re worried about their baby sleeping too much or not enough. Other times it’s out of curiosity and want to know how long does your baby need to sleep before he/she starts waking up from naps. Some parents even have other concerns like whether their child will fall asleep during the day or if she’ll wake up in the middle of the night.
In any case, there are several things that you need to consider before answering the question. First of all, let’s see if your baby is really sleeping more while feeding. If yes then you may be able to tell her to nurse every two hours instead of once an hour. But don’t worry!
You can still feed her whenever you want without worrying about her getting sleepy again.
Does my baby sleep more while I’m feeding?
The first thing you need to do is take a look at when your little one usually falls asleep during the day.
Do they usually fall asleep while nursing, or do they fall asleep at some other time?
If your baby seems to fall asleep during every single feeding then the answer may be yes, your little one is probably sleeping more while eating. You can fix this by not letting him eat too much during the day. If you want to, you can try feeding him more during the night and letting him sleep more during the day. Remember, let him sleep as much as he wants during the night, but make sure he doesn’t sleep too long during the day.
On the other hand if your baby falls asleep at some other time, during the day, then the answer is no. You don’t need to worry about changing anything in this case since your little one isn’t sleeping more while eating. Keep doing what you’re doing because it’s working.
My baby sleeps a lot during the day but only sleeps for 4 hours at night, is this bad?
Babies have different sleep cycles so just because your little one sleeps only four hours at night doesn’t necessarily mean anything is wrong. If you feel your baby wakes up too early then try to feed him less during the day. On the other hand if you feel your little one sleeps too much during the day then try to feed him more, but only during the last feeding of the day. NEVER wake a sleeping baby unless it’s an emergency.
My baby sleeps more during the day and wakes up at night, is this normal?
Most newborns are like this and eventually grow out of it around 3 months. These little ones will sleep through the night and wake up once or twice to eat. After 3 months most babies will start sleeping longer during the night and may even start taking short naps during the day.
My baby sleeps a lot during the day and then takes short naps during the night, is this normal?
Yes, some babies are like this. They sleep a lot during the day and then only take short naps at night. As long as you’re feeding your little one every 3 hours or less you shouldn’t do anything because everything is fine. Just make sure you don’t wake a sleeping baby unless its an emergency since babies need all the sleep they can get.
My baby only seems to sleep at night, is this normal?
Yes, some babies are like this and will eventually grow out of it after 3 months or so. It’s nothing to worry about as long as you’re feeding your baby enough during the day so that he doesn’t get hungry at night. If your little one wakes up at night crying and hungry then you should try to wake him less during the day. Also make sure you don’t fall into the trap that some parents do, which is to feed the baby as soon as he cries. Babies can cry for many reasons other than being hungry. Try your best to see if he’s really hungry or maybe just needs his diaper changed or something else.
My baby sleeps all night and all day, is this bad?
No, some babies are like this. They sleep a lot during the day and all night as well. If your little one sleeps all night and all day then there is absolutely no need to worry since everything is fine. Some babies are just like this and there is nothing wrong with them.
My baby is a newborn but he seems to be very sleepy during the day, is this normal?
Yes, some newborns sleep a lot during the day. As long as you’re feeding your little one enough during the day so that he doesn’t get hungry then everything is fine. On the other hand if your little one wakes up at night and cries then you should try to wake him less during the day. Most babies grow out of this sleepy phase during their first month.
I’ve tried everything but my baby just won’t sleep!
If you’ve tried all the advice above and you’re still having problems with your little one then you should try the methods listed below. Again these are very extreme measures so don’t think I’m recommending them to you. I’m only listing them so that you can read about them in case you want to try them.
The first thing you can do is to let your little one “cry it out”. This method basically involves letting your baby cry alone in his crib until he falls asleep. This sounds inhumane but it does work, sometimes. There are many ways of doing this and you should choose the one that you think will work best for you and your family.
The second thing you can do is to take your baby into bed with you and let him sleep with you. I’m sure all of you already know that this is not the safest thing but it does help out a lot in the sleep department. Of course this doesn’t work after they get older since they are likely to roll over in their sleep and end up killing themselves. You should also remember to eventually wean them from the bed because, as with everything in life, there is no free lunch.
If you do decide on this option then just be careful.
The last thing you can do is to never let your baby cry. That’s right; never let him cry no matter what. Some parents feel that babies cannot really feel pain or understand what is going on when they are being left alone to cry, especially if they have something to suck on. Others feel that it’s just a part of life and that you shouldn’t protect your child from the world.
There is much controversy about this issue and many books have been written on the subject so I won’t take a side in this debate. All I will say is if you do decide to adopt this policy then you should hide all knives and weapons in your house since there is always the chance that your little bundle of joy might find them.
If you’ve tried everything above and your little one won’t sleep then you should probably see a doctor. There is probably something wrong with your baby.
Q: The baby won’t stop crying, what should I do?
A: Let him cry.
Q: My baby is cranky all the time, what can I do?
A: You have a few options. You can try letting him cry it out, you can also try to soothe him when he gets fussy or you can try to find out what’s wrong with him. You mother or your partner should help you decide which option to take.
Q: My baby is very fussy, what should I do?
A: Try to figure out why she is so cranky.
Is she hungry? Does she have a dirty diaper? Are you holding her wrong?
There are several reasons why a baby can be cranky so you’ll have to try different things to see what works.
Q: My baby is crying all the time and I can’t concentrate on my studies, what should I do?
A: If you are unable to calm or distract your child then maybe you and your child should take a walk around the campus. There are a few rides and things to look at so maybe you can find something that will keep you both occupied.
Q: My baby is crying all the time and I can’t focus on my studies, what should I do?
A: If you are unable to calm or distract your child then maybe you and your child should go for a drive. A car ride can sooth even the crankiest of babies.
Q: My baby seems to be in pain, what should I do?
A: Try taking your child for a ride in the car or go for a walk and see if that distracts him. Some painkiller for children is also available over the counter so you can try asking your doctor for some.
Q: My baby is cranky all the time and my arms are starting to hurt, what should I do?
A: Maybe you need to look into getting a baby carrier or a stroller for your child. This can help distribute the weight so you don’t get as tired when you’re out and about.
Q: My baby seems unhappy, what can I do?
A: Try to remember what circumstances made him happy last time and see if you can recreate those circumstances. Lots of children like to look at hanging toys that make a lot of noise or have bright lights. You might have to try several stores before you find the right one your child likes but it’ll be worth it when they start smiling again.
Q: My daughter is crying and screaming all the time, what should I do?
A: Well first off don’t smack her or anything like that. Children can be a handful sometimes but you have to try and remain patient. Here are some tips that may help:
When dealing with babies and young children, remember that they can’t communicate verbally as effectively as an adult so you’ll have to try extra hard to read their actions and understand what they want. Children also love repetition so if you give them something to play with they will more often than not be content with it.
Q: My daughter is cranky all the time and I’m not sure what to do to calm her down. A: Sometimes when children get cranky it means that they need something.
Are they hungry?
Maybe they need to go potty. Try to remember what has calmed them down in the past and see if you can implement that.
Q: I can’t seem to bond with my daughter, how can I fix this?
A: Sometimes it can be hard to bond with your baby/child. A lot of the time this happens when the parents try to force the bonding process. The best way to bond is to focus on taking care of your child and spend time with them. If you are persistent this bond should form naturally and effectively.
Q: I don’t know how to respond to my daughter when she does X. A: Every child is different and each one will respond to different actions. The best way to learn how to respond is to pay attention to your children’s actions and try to get a feel for what she enjoys or doesn’t enjoy.
Q: My daughter is always cranky and crying, what can I do?
A: Sometimes babies can be a handful. They get cranky for a variety of reasons. Here are some things you can do to try and calm her down:
Pat her back
Walk around with her (This works best if she’s cranky because of hunger)
Q: My daughter is always getting into stuff and making a mess, what should I do?
A: Children explore their environment by touching, grabbing, and putting everything they can in their mouths. It’s important to keep an eye on them when they’re mobile and make sure they don’t get into anything they shouldn’t.
Q: My daughter is trying to talk but all that is coming out are random sounds and babble, what should I do?
A: Most children learn how to communicate through babble before they learn how to speak proper words. Listen to the sounds they make and try to figure out what they are trying to say. If you think you’ve figured out what they’re trying to say then repeat it back to them with the correct words. With time and patience they will learn to speak properly.
Q: My daughter is pulling up on things and almost walking, what should I do?
A: This is a great step towards learning to walk. Try holding her hands gently and supporting her as she takes steps. Be sure to watch her closely though so she doesn’t fall and hurt herself. Also be sure to keep all dangerous items out of her reach so she doesn’t get hurt.
Child (2-4 years)
Children at this age can run a bit and maybe even say a few words. They will begin to develop a personality of their own and it will become apparent if they are more of an introvert or extrovert.
Skills: Talking, Walking
Personality: Introverted or Extroverted
Q: My daughter is talking a lot and singing nursery rhymes, what can I do to encourage this?
A: It’s very important to encourage your child when they are young so they will thrive. Try to engage with her when she talks to you. Be patient when she sings nursery rhymes, over time the repetition will help her learn.
Q: My daughter seems sad, why is she like this?
A: Some children just seem a little sad when they are young. Remember that even if they’re quiet introverts they still enjoy interacting with you and other people on some level.
Q: My daughter is very talkative and playful, how can I get her to calm down?
A: Even extroverted children need time to themselves. Tell her its time to stop bothering other people and she needs to go play by herself for awhile. If you’re lucky she’ll take a nap and leave you alone for a bit!
Q: My daughter is getting into everything, how can I keep her out of trouble?
A: Children learn by exploring, but that doesn’t mean you have to let her run wild. Keeping your cooking knives out of reach, installing door latches, and keeping poisonous substances away from her are all good strategies for keeping her out of trouble.
Q: My daughter is too quiet and I’m worried about her, what can I do?
A: Sometimes children don’t talk until they’re a little older. Don’t worry about it too much unless she’s not talking by the time she’s five years old. If that’s the case, try to engage her with toys and activities that encourage her to communicate.
Q: My daughter is trying to climb everything, what should I do?
A: This is a normal part of a toddler’s exploration of their environment. Do your best to keep dangerous items out of her reach and make sure furniture is secured to the ground.
Q: My daughter is very active, what activities can I sign her up for?
A: Sports are a great way to burn off extra energy. You can have her try things like soccer, softball, or gymnastics.
Q: My daughter is speaking in sentences and using big words, how can I encourage this?
A: Encourage your child by clapping and praising her when she speaks. Ask her questions and be attentive when she tries to talk to you.
Q: My daughter is very shy and scared of new situations, what can I do to help her?
A: Large crowds may overstimulate some children. Try to expose her to new people and places gradually by taking small steps. Have her play with a neighbor before signing her up for soccer.
Children (5-12 years)
Children at this age have much more defined personalities and will often become more outgoing, or more reserved. It’s important to note that while most children will fall under the categories listed below, some will have personality traits that don’t quite fit. It is also not unheard of for children to have a strange fascination with things like violence, body functions, or other taboo topics. This is normal, and is not something that needs to be discouraged unless it goes beyond an appropriate level for childhood curiosity.
Energetic Amanda is very outgoing and likes spending time with her friends. She likes to try new things and is very energetic, but she can sometimes be a little reckless. She is very curious about things and learns best by interacting with them directly. Suggested Activities: Amanda will enjoy activities that involve her friends, such as sports, outdoor games, or creative activities.
Try to involve her in extracurricular classes that she enjoys.
Sebastian is a very intelligent child with an extensive vocabulary. He likes thinking about things logically and often opens conversations by asking questions. He likes to organize his thoughts using lists, patterns, and charts. Suggested Activities: Encourage Sebastian to read non-fiction books on topics that interest him.
Point out connections between different subjects that he might not otherwise think about, such as the relationship between math and music.
Timid Owen is a reserved child who doesn’t like to be in the spotlight. He doesn’t like to try new foods or participate in activities that might be physically challenging. He pays attention to detail and will point out mistakes that others miss. Suggested Activities: Owen will benefit from joining organized sports teams, but he will need encouragement from his parents.
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