Am I Too Old to Have Kids?
What to Know About Fertility and Aging
The answer depends on your age, but there are some things that every person needs to know before they decide whether or not they want kids.
1) You’re Not Ready For Children Yet!
There’s no denying that having children would be a great blessing. But you still aren’t ready for them yet.
If you were, then why don’t you just wait until you’re older? Why do all these unnecessary things like going through with an abortion or trying to get pregnant when you’re not even ready?
2) You Shouldn’t Wait Until Your Life Is Over Before Having A Baby!
You might think that because your life isn’t over yet, that means it’s time to start having kids. That’s probably true if your life was really bad and you had no hope left.
However, most people have lives that aren’t so bad. They go out, work hard and save money. Most of those things take time. And while you may not be ready to have kids right now, you will be soon enough anyway!
3) Even If You Are Ready To Start Having Kids Sooner Than Later…
Even though you’re probably not ready to start having kids anytime soon, there are other reasons why you shouldn’t wait until later than later either! If you start having children in your later years, then that means you and your partner will probably be raising them in your older years as well!
In other words, the chances of your kids taking care of you when you can’t take care of yourself anymore would be very high.
4) Having Kids Whenever You Want Is Overrated!
Having kids when you want is overrated.
If you really think about it, how many kids did you actually wanted to have?
Most people’s answers to this question are almost always: “one” or “two”. But the fact is, when you have just one or two kids, then that means you get to spend quality time with them and enjoy them more. But if you have six or more kids (like some people), then that means you don’t even know half of them by name!
Having Kids When You’re Too Old?
Having kids when you’re too old isn’t usually recommended. You may have experienced things that you can teach your kids, but chances are you’ve also experienced things that you shouldn’t teach them.
Plus, you’re probably too old to handle the responsibilities of raising a child!
Having kids is not for everyone. You shouldn’t feel like you’re “missing out” or that you need to have a kid “just because”.
If you’re in your late 40’s and you still feel a longing to have children, then by all means go ahead and do so. Just make sure you’re ready for what’s to come!
Does this mean you’ll definitely be a bad parent if you do decide to have children?
Of course not!
It would just make the process harder than it already is.
But remember, you don’t have to have kids just because everyone else is doing it or because society says you should!
What’s the point of having kids if you don’t even want them?
Or are you simply delusional and in denial about your feelings?
Either way, it’s your life to live as you see fit. Just make sure you think everything through before you make your final decision.
Want to know how to make sure you’re ready for kids?
Here’s How To Know If You’re Ready For Kids OR Not READY
Your brother and his wife keep telling you that you’ll change your mind once you meet the right person. However, deep down, you know that isn’t true.
You’ve given it a lot of thought and you’re fairly certain that kids just aren’t for you.
Still, you aren’t sure if you’d be able to tell your brother that. After all, he is your brother and your best friend.
You don’t want to lose him over this.
So what do you do?
Well, if you’re serious about not having children for the rest of your life, you need to sit down and have a mature conversation with him about it. Tell him that you want to be honest with him about your feelings on this matter.
That’s what you should do.
But that’s not what you’re going to do…
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