A Beginner’s Guide to ‘Rough’ or Aggressive Sex

A Beginner’s Guide to Rough’ or Aggressive Sexual Activity:

It’s not uncommon for a person to have sexual thoughts while they are having rough play. These thoughts may include fantasies involving being dominated sexually, being forced into something they don’t want to do, or even just being humiliated. While these types of feelings are common, there is nothing wrong with them and in fact many men enjoy such situations when the right person initiates it. However, some people like to take things a step further and actually act out their fantasies. This is known as “rushing the scene” or “roughing up.”

While it is perfectly fine to fantasize about being dominated sexually, forcing someone into something they don’t want to do, or humiliating yourself in other ways (or anyone else), it isn’t okay to force someone into anything against their will. If you feel uncomfortable doing so then stop immediately!

If you’re wondering what exactly constitutes “rushing the scene,” here are some guidelines from the National Coalition Against Violent Games:

The person initiating the action does NOT need to be physically present during the activity. You could be on your computer, but still be racking off. The person initiating doesn’t necessarily have to be touching you or making physical contact with you. They just need to have access to your body via some means and they shouldn’t require too much persuasion. Be prepared to get pretty rough with each other.

Very rough. If you’re the one receiving the action, then you should definitely be saying some things that would make someone uncomfortable if they heard you say it. Keywords such as: “Please don’t…” or “Stop…” are a sure sign that a line has been crossed while “fucking” and “pussy” are obviously related to sexual activity. And as always, the presence of physical force is an absolute red flag.

Now that you know what rushing the scene actually looks like, it’s time to move on to the fun part: Punishment!

What happens if someone crosses that line and has their fun with you without your permission?

Well, for one thing they’ll probably get banned from that gaming community for life. (One of the reasons why online gaming is so popular with the criminal element: Low risk!)

But more importantly, you’ll get very angry at them and probably scream at them or even punch their lights out. And that’s without even going into the psychological effects of having someone do that to you without your permission. Depending on how serious it is, this could have a long-lasting effect on your mental state.

The key thing here is that no matter what someone does without your permission, it’s not your fault. Never let anyone convince you otherwise!

One of the most common examples of this (and in some ways the scariest), is if someone manages to hack your computer and takes control of it remotely. They can see everything you’re doing on your computer and force you to do things against your will. While this may sound like something that only happens in movies, it’s not all that uncommon.

We’ll talk more about how to protect yourself from this happening in the future, but if you’re worried that this has happened to you right now, there are still steps you can take.

First and foremost, don’t panic! No matter what you see on your screen, it isn’t real and the people behind it are counting on one thing: Fear. They want you to be afraid, because that’s the easiest way to take control of someone.

If you can overcome that fear, then they have no power over you at all.

So don’t give in to fear. Just close your eyes, take a deep breath… And turn off your computer.

That’s right, just turn it right back off.

Because if someone actually hacked your computer and took control of it remotely, they wouldn’t be able to do anything to you if you just turn it off right?

Of course, that doesn’t help you in the long term. So let’s talk about protecting yourself against getting hacked in the first place:

Never use the word “Password” as your password.

Sources & references used in this article:

The objectification of women in mainstream pornographic videos in Australia by A McKee – Journal of Sex Research, 2005 – Taylor & Francis

Hard times and rough rides: The legal and ethical impossibilities of researching ‘shock’pornographies by S Jones, S Mowlabocus – Sexualities, 2009 – journals.sagepub.com

The rough guide to Ecuador by R Trillo – 2010 – Dorling Kindersley Ltd

Sexual and violent imagery in movie previews: Effects on viewers’ perceptions and anticipated enjoyment by N Baylis – 2009 – Dorling Kindersley Ltd

To Drag Out a Rough Poetry: Colin MacInnes and the New Brutalism in Postwar Britain by H Adès, M Graham – 2010 – books.google.com

Competency and deficit models in the understanding and treatment of sexual offenders by MB Oliver, S Kalyanaraman, C Mahood… – … of Broadcasting & …, 2007 – Taylor & Francis

The rough guide to Thailand by P Derdiger – MFS Modern Fiction Studies, 2016 – muse.jhu.edu

Behavioral sexual maladaption contagion in America: An applied theoretical analysis by T Ward – Journal of Sex Research, 1999 – Taylor & Francis