12 Signs of a Controlling Personality

They are often described as manipulative or controlling.

What exactly does it mean? And how do they really behave like that? How do you recognize them from others around you? Are there any signs that might indicate whether someone is a victim of manipulation or not? If so, what are these signs and why would one need to look out for them?

If you have been affected by a personality disorder, then the answers may surprise you!

The following are some of the signs that you might encounter when dealing with a person suffering from a personality disorder:

1. They will never admit their mistakes.

You cannot argue with them because they always say something different than what they meant to say. When you try to correct them, they become angry and accuse you of being jealous or possessive. Their behavior is very unpredictable and inconsistent; sometimes they seem friendly but other times they act hostile towards you.

2. They will never apologize for anything.

Even if you tell them that they did something wrong, they won’t take responsibility for it. Instead, they blame you for making them feel bad or even worse, blaming them for your problems!

3. They don’t listen to reason and are intolerant of criticism (even if it is true).

If you disagree with their ideas or opinions, then they’ll just dismiss your opinion as irrational or ridiculous.

4. They are very self-centered.

Everything is all about them and will never be concerned about how you feel. If you try to talk about yourself, they’ll try to change the subject back to themselves.

5. They are completely unpredictable: One moment they can be nice and the next they’re mean.

They might apologize then later play the victim again. They have sudden mood swings that are unexplained and often unreasonable.


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