10 Reasons Why Crying During or After Sexual Activity Is Completely Normal:
1) You are not alone!
There are many women out there who cry during sexual activity because they feel so emotional. They may even have experienced it before, but never realized that they were crying during their own intimate moments.
Women tend to be more expressive when experiencing emotions such as sadness, anger, fear and love.
2) Your partner will understand if you cry!
If your partner cries, it means that he/she understands what you are feeling. It shows that he/she cares enough to try to comfort you and make sure you don’t get hurt during the act.
Many men and women cry during sexual activity for different reasons. Some cry because they are embarrassed; some cry because they are upset with themselves; others cry simply because they are sad.
3) Crying during or after sexual activity is normal!
Most people experience tears during or after sexual activity. However, it does not mean that you have a psychological problem like depression, anxiety disorders, etc.
It just means that your body is going through its natural reaction to something which involves pleasure and pain.
4) You are releasing your bottled up emotions.
After an extreme emotion, humans often need to release their pent up feelings. When you have an extremely happy or sad experience, you tend to cry due to the strong emotions that you feel.
During or after sexual activity, many women feel a mixture of both happiness and sadness. This is why some women cry during or after intimacy. Their body is eliminating all of the built up emotions that they have held inside of them. If you cry during or after intimacy, don’t feel embarrassed. Instead, embrace your feelings and let it all out.
5) You are not having sexual relations like you used to anymore.
Perhaps you and your partner have been in a relationship for a very long time. Maybe you both have jobs that keep you extremely busy.
Or maybe you’ve recently had a baby, which has consumed most of your time and effort. Whatever the case may be, some women don’t have sexual relations with their partners as much as they used to. When a woman doesn’t have sexual intimacy for a long period of time, she might experience strong emotions when she and her partner engage in the act. Many women cry during this time because of the mixture of emotions that they experience.
6) There is no need to feel embarrassed!
If you feel embarrassed by crying during or after intimacy, then it will probably continue to happen. The reason for this is because you are a prisoner of your own mind.
The mind is a powerful thing. What this means is that if you expect something to happen, then it is more likely that it will happen. If you are expecting to cry during intimacy, then you probably will. If you believe that crying isn’t normal, then it won’t be. The best thing to do in this situation is to not be ashamed of yourself or your feelings. Instead, embrace them!
Crying during intimacy is a normal thing. In fact, many women around the world cry during intimacy.
If you feel embarrassed or ashamed for crying during intimacy, then it will continue to happen. Instead, learn to accept and embrace your feelings. Cry if you need to!
Tiffany is a multi-award winning health writer and editor who has spent her entire career researching and writing about health-related topics. She is a strong advocate of regular check-ups with one’s physician and has written dozens of articles on the benefits of preventative healthcare.
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