What Happens When You Are SEXUALLY FRUSTRATED?
When you are sexually frustrated, you feel like something is wrong with your body. Your mind starts thinking things like: “I am not attracted to my wife.” or “My wife doesn’t love me enough.” Or even worse, “She wants to have another baby!” These thoughts may cause you to become angry and upset. But don’t worry! There are ways out of this situation.
1. You Can Stop Thinking About It!
You can stop thinking about it and just deal with it. Just try to remember that there is nothing wrong with you, because if there was then you wouldn’t be feeling this way. If you want to get rid of these negative thoughts, think positive thoughts such as: “It will pass” or “Things happen for a reason.” Remember that all problems come from the mind.
2. You Need To Get Rid Of Negative Thoughts Before They Become A Reality!
Negative thoughts are going to make you feel bad and unhappy. So you need to get rid of them before they become reality. One way is through meditation, which helps you focus on positive thoughts instead of negative ones. Another way is by taking some time off from work or school and spending time with friends and family members.
3. You Should Try To Deal With The Situation That Is Making You Feel This Way!
If your problem is your job or school, then you should try to talk with someone about it and see if there is a way to change the situation. If your problem is your marriage, well you are just going to have to try harder to solve that. Also, if you are feeling this way towards your wife then you should start working on improving your relationship with her.
4. You Can Deal With The Root Of The Problem!
If you feel like your life is empty and has no meaning, then you should start living for a greater purpose. Find something to live for. If you are religious, then find a deeper connection with your faith. If you aren’t religious then find something else that gives your life meaning. Some examples would be helping the homeless, doing volunteer work, or even just spending more time with friends and family.
All of these things can help you get the meaning in life that you desire.
It’s Time To Get Help!
If you are experiencing any of the following problems, then you may need to seek professional help:
You don’t like who you are.
You feel like your life has no meaning.
You have serious marital problems.
You are thinking about having an affair.
You are experiencing nightmares or flashbacks.
You are abusing drugs or alcohol.
You feel trapped and are thinking about suicide.
You are dealing with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
If you are experiencing any of these problems, then please seek professional help now. There are groups such as Alcoholics Anonymous or various church ministries that can help you with your drug or alcohol problem. There is also counseling available through your local church or hospital. If you feel that you might do harm to yourself or someone else, then please contact your local emergency number immediately.
Marriage Problems!!
It’s a scary thing when your marriage starts having problems, and it can even get worse if you don’t take immediate action. Here are some common marriage problems along with advice on how to solve them:
Common Marriage Problems And Advice
I Married The Wrong Person!
One of the most common marriage problems is that people marry the wrong person! According to the divorce rate, this is a pretty common problem. It is hard to see the warning signs in the beginning, which is why the phrase “marry in haste, repent in leisure” exists.
So how can you tell if you married the wrong person?
Here are some clues:
You have very different life goals.
You have very different ideas on how to raise children.
You have very different religious beliefs.
You don’t have any similar interests.
You married too young.
Some of these issues can be worked out, and some of them can’t. If you have major differences, such as religious beliefs, then it might not matter how much you love each other because you might not be able to resolve the issue. It’s best to part ways if you are going to be at odds with very important issues such as these.
Our Lives Have Taken Different Directions!
Another very common issue in marriages is that people’s lives have just gone in different directions. Sometimes these issues are brought on by external factors, like a spouse getting laid off of work. Other times there is no clear reason. This issue has a lot to do with “outgrown each other.” You might be at different points in your lives.
For example, let’s say you are in your twenties and you get married. You both are out enjoying the nightlife, going to clubs and having fun. You might get married and then have kids right away. After the kids come, your spouse might be ready to go out and party once the kids go to sleep. Meanwhile, you are so tired after putting the kids to bed that you just want to stay in.
This is an example of being at different points in your lives. You might also be at different points in your lives if you went to college and your spouse didn’t. It is very common for the person who went to college to be at a different life stage than their spouse.
If you feel as though you married too young or you feel as though your lives are just going in different directions, then it might be time to move on. Sometimes people just aren’t meant to be together.
Trapped In A Bad Marriage!
It is hard to imagine, but there are some people out there that are trapped in bad marriages. Maybe they made a mistake when they were young. Maybe they were bullying into the marriage. Maybe they are being severely abused. No matter what the reason, it is always possible to get out of a bad marriage.
Here are some tips on getting out of a bad marriage:
First and foremost, it is not safe to stay in an abusive relationship. If your partner is beating you, hurting you or threatening you, contact the police immediately. Don’t try to handle the situation on your own. After you have gotten out of the immediate danger, then you can start planning your next steps.
Don’t try to do this alone. Reach out to friends and family for support. Staying in an abusive relationship is very isolating. You might start feeling as if nobody cares or that you have nowhere to turn. However, chances are, you have a lot of people in your life that do care and it’s just as important to maintain healthy friendships as it is a healthy marriage.
Try to bring up the issues in your relationship calmly. If you start screaming and yelling at your spouse, you aren’t going to solve anything. If anything, you are just going to push your partner away. Instead, try using a calm voice and discuss the issues one at a time. The more calm you can be, the more receptive your partner will probably be.
Get professional help if necessary. There are lots of programs out there just for situations like these. Whether it’s divorce counseling or domestic violence programs, there are ways to get help if you don’t have much yourself.
Remember that you don’t have to stay in an abusive relationship and getting out is not easy, but it is possible.
Children And Divorce
If you and your partner have children, the subject of divorce is going to come up at some point. This can be a scary time for any parent. The last thing you want is for your children to be hurt by the process. Here are some tips on how to keep your children out of the middle of a divorce.
First of all, don’t talk badly about the other parent to your children.
Sources & references used in this article:
‘I daresay I might find it embarrassing’: general practitioners’ perspectives on discussing sexual health issues with lesbian and gay patients by N Bilton – 2011 – Currency
Cyberbullying: Causes, effects, and remedies by S Hinchliff, M Gott, E Galena – Health & social care in the …, 2005 – Wiley Online Library
Back off!: How to confront and stop sexual harassment and harassers by DL Hoff, SN Mitchell – Journal of Educational Administration, 2009 – emerald.com
Men who rape: The psychology of the offender by M Langelan – 1993 – books.google.com
