How do you know if you’re gay, straight or something in between?
I don’t want to get into a discussion on this topic too much because it’s not really up for debate. However, I will say that there are some things that most people believe when they first hear the term ‘orientation’. These beliefs include:
1) There is no such thing as homosexuality.
(This belief comes from the idea that God created us male and female. Therefore, if you were born one way or another, then your gender is determined by God.)
2) Homosexuality is a mental disorder.
(This belief comes from the idea that homosexuality is unnatural and abnormal.)
3) Homosexuals are sick.
(This belief comes from the idea that homosexuals are mentally ill.)
4) A homosexual cannot love anyone else.
(This belief comes from the idea that a homosexual cannot feel love for others. )
5) Homosexuality is against nature.
(This belief comes from the idea that homosexuality is against natural law.)
6) Homosexuals are going to hell.
(This belief comes from the idea that homosexuals are sinners and go to hell.)
7) A homosexual must choose to be heterosexual or die.
(This belief comes from the idea that a homosexual must choose to live a life of sin or death.)
8) A person can change their sexual preference at any time.
(This belief comes from the idea that a person can change at any time or preference does not matter.)
9) A person is born with their sexual preference.
(This belief comes from the idea that a person is born with a certain sexual preference or orientation.)
10) A person’s sexual preference is not important. (This belief comes from the idea that a person should not be judged by their sexual preference, but by their character instead. In other words, it is more important to look at a person’s actions and their heart rather than their thoughts and feelings.)
Now, some people believe that the above points are true. Other people believe they are false. Still, other people believe they are partially true. In the medical community, many people have done research over the past few years in order to try to find out if there is any scientific evidence that would prove or disprove any of the above points.
Several studies have been published, but the information seems to be conflicting, confusing, and sometimes hidden. As a result, there is still a lot of controversy going on over this topic.
So, which view has the most merit?
The real answer is probably somewhere in the middle. This does not mean that you can pick and choose what you want to believe. Instead, it means that none of the beliefs are 100% correct or true because they all have some truth in them. Even the parts that are true are not necessarily in the way that people believe them to be. So, if you’re going to decide what is probably true and what is probably false about this topic, you need to use your brain and think critically. If you do this, then you should be able to come to your own conclusion on what is probably true and what is probably false. But, before you do that, you need to learn the basics about what is probably true and what is probably false about the topic of human sexuality.
The following information has been divided into three parts. The first part (which is divided into two separate sections) will talk about what is probably true and what is probably false about lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender issues. The second part will talk about some of the major sources of controversy in this topic. The third part will talk about ways to improve your practice in this topic.
Before you begin, there are a few things you should keep in mind as you read this information:
~ All of the information in this post represents what is probably true and what is probably false based upon the best evidence that we have today. As new evidence comes along, what is probably true and what is probably false may change. Keep an open mind.
~ Your beliefs do not make you right and another person’s beliefs do not make them right. Keep an open mind about the beliefs of others and respect the diversity of thoughts, ideas, attitudes, beliefs, and opinions.
~ The question of what is probably true and what is probably false is a matter of science. Keep your spiritual or religious beliefs out of the discussion.
~ There is no need to be personally offended by anything you read in this topic. Be prepared for questions that may challenge your beliefs and thoughts on the topic. If you react with hostility or anger, you can be sure that you will not get a thorough answer from me.
~ This post was created so that everyone could have the chance to explore a bit of information about human sexuality. This information is not meant to judge anyone or any group, so if you find yourself feeling judged, perhaps it would be best if you did not continue reading.
~ If you wish to participate in this topic or if you have questions, please read all the way through this topic first before posting and make sure that your question has not already been addressed. Many of the questions that have been asked are answered within the topic.It should also be noted that there are various types of sexuality that fall under the general category of human sexuality. This post will address some of these types, but not all of them.
Also, this post will not address every aspect of human sexuality within these types. The information provided within this post is by no means all-inclusive.
~ The types of sexualities that will be addressed in this post include heterosexuality, homosexuality, bisexuality, asexuality, pansexuality, masturbation, incest, pedophilia, and necrophilia.
~ This post will use technical language specific to the topic.
Sources & references used in this article:
A very “gay” straight? Hybrid masculinities, sexual aesthetics, and the changing relationship between masculinity and homophobia by T Bridges – Gender & Society, 2014 – journals.sagepub.com
Navigating differences: Friendships between gay and straight men by J Money – 1988 – Oxford University Press on Demand
Between gay and straight: Understanding friendship across sexual orientation by J Price – 2013 – books.google.com